The Big O or the Big NO
Some say it's over rated and the real fun is getting there but there is no doubt that orgasm is the single greatest physical sensation a person can experience. So it's no wonder that orgasmic disorder is no laughing matter. You have to be living under a rock to have not at least read 10 articles on female orgasm. The internet is loaded with great information but unfortunately, it's very hard to search decent information without running into some testosterone packed guide for men on how to get their girl to climax or porn websites. I figured I would put together a few thoughts and answer some questions that we get the most often in email and comments. I hope you find this article informative and useful whether you're looking to achieve your first orgasm, shooting for multiple orgasms, or attempting something wild like female ejaculation.
First off, what exactly is an orgasm anyway?
All right we're going to start complicated right out the gate. In women, it's now thought that there are two types of orgasms known as clitoral orgasm and vaginal orgasm. We can thank our friend Freud for the concept in separating the two ways a woman can experience climax but there is some merit to it and Masters and Johnson confirmed it during their study of the stages of orgasm. This is really where a lot of the complication sprouts from as women have long felt non-content with what they would consider a clitoral orgasm and many have trouble reaching climax without clitoral stimulation. So, it would appear that vaginal orgasm is more sensational than clitoral right? Not necessarily, but will get back to that later because it has an important tidbit that relates to orgasmic disorder.
First let's take a look at what orgasm is and what truly defines the act. Technically an orgasm is clinically defined by a series of involuntary muscular contractions in the vaginal area of a female anatomy. Orgasmic disorder is the inability to reach this climax of muscular bliss. This usually follows multiple stages of arousal and heightened sensation and is associated with intense pleasure throughout the body as these convulsions spread throughout the body finishing in complete relaxation both physically and mentally. While it's not completely known why women have orgasm there is evidence that it increases the likelihood of conception as the cervix actually dips into the vaginal fornix where sperm lies as the pelvic muscles contract. Regardless of what scientific purpose this whole event is related to, we all know it feels great and it also inspires good feelings in our sexual partners.
How do I know I'm actually having female orgasm?
I'm pretty sure most women would be capable of determining if they reach climax during intercourse or masturbation so the question which we tend to get more than any other really should translate into: How do I know if I achieve the right type of orgasm or, how do I know if I have orgasmic disorder? That's a hard question to answer too. It really depends and as any woman will tell you there are no two identical. If you are reaching climax though it will follow and end with a few natural stages including:
- Desire- Known as Female Libido, in this stage a woman begins to crave or desire romantic, sensual, or sexual gratification and is one of the most critical yet, neglected stages.
- Excitement-Known as Female Arousal, it is our body's physical response to the emotional desire stage. At this point the nipples erect and all erroneous zones become more sensitive as the vagina gets into action providing lubrication for the next stages
- Plateau-Exactly as it's labeled, this is the highest point of sexual excitement and sets the stage for orgasm. The heart rate increases as does breathing.
- Orgasm-Following the plateau at this point all the tension and energy that has been building explodes into intense pulsation feelings that spread from the pelvic area to the rest of the body.
- Resolution-Cool down time. The resolution stage is the ahhhh feeling we enjoy so much after an intense love making session that completes with a tremendous orgasm.
There's more than one way to do this
So earlier I promised to get back to the subject of different types of female orgasm. While it's still debated as to if there is a difference between the two the sensation is different depending on how you achieve female orgasm. Here are a few ways achieve climax
- Sexual Intercourse obviously whether with a penis or a sex toy
- Manual or Oral Stimulation of the clitoris and (or) vagina
- The Coveted G-Spot
- Anal Stimulation or Intercourse or a combination of anal and vaginal/clitoral stimulation
All of these approaches lead to different types and intensities of orgasm. Some women may be able to reach climax easier through anal stimulation compared to their neighbor who completely gets off on clitoral stimulation. However, if you have issues reaching orgasm through traditional sexual intercourse there may be some underlying issues at bay such as orgasmic disorder. Also, while it may not be a severe disease many women suffer from female sexual dysfunction which greatly impacts the desire, excitement, and plateau stage of sexual response therefore making it hard to achieve orgasm. This is why so many women are using female sexual enhancers to assist in greater sensation, vaginal lubrication, and desire to help them reach the female orgasm they desire. If you have orgasmic disorder these solutions are even more important to take into consideration.
Multiple orgasms and more!
Men can say what they'd like about sexual performance but we women do have an advantage in our unique ability to reach orgasm multiple times sequentially. If you suffer from orgasmic disorder not only are you missing out on a single great sensation but you can actually achieve multiple orgasms. This isn't a masturbation or sexual technique guide so all I will say is with the right tools, some patience, and a healthy appetite you too can be on your way to multiple orgasms and maybe even female ejaculation. For most of us though, we'd be just happy obtaining sexual climax every time with our partner. If you're not getting there or looking to get to this advanced level read through some of the articles on this site and check out some of the candid reviews of products on here like Lyriana and Provestra which are female libido enhancers. As always feel free to comment or email us if you have questions or comments.
Orgasmic disorder can rob you of your feminine right to pleasure!
Orgasmic disorder sometimes considered HSDD usually is a result of a traumatic experience whether physical or emotional but can also begin with relationship problems. Unfortunately some women experience this issue as a life long challenge and there are actually a small percentage of women who have never experienced orgasm in their lifetime. Essentially female orgasmic disorder occurs with a serious delay or complete lack of orgasm during sexual activity. In order to be classified as a disorder the problem must generate relationship issues so it is really a combination of emotional and physical disorder.
Typically a woman who has learned how to achieve climax through sexual stimulation does not loose the ability unless there is a series of events traumatic or not that causes the body to loose ability to complete proper arousal, excitement, and climax, or orgasm in a women. Sometimes this is caused by depression or simply poor communication in a relationship but most often it is a result of improper sexual balance and health. Some women actually have a fear of letting their bodies go and cannot finish before their partner does because the amount of time and stimulation is too great to climax. Orgasmic disorder is typically treated with consultation to first diagnose what the cause of the problem is and typically treated with therapy or pharmaceutical medications.